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I am steady learning that compassion is important ((MM)
The conversations that I had with you were helpful in changing my perspective and thought process on how I view myself, my husband, my marriage, and others. I am steady learning that compassion is important and having the ability to accept differences as something to be accepted versus considered an overall negative or weakness. Learning that our strengths combined are precious to the kingdom gives me hope for the plans GOD has for us. Scripture will always be a resource I use to assist me along this journey. The list of practical ways to show unconditional love is very helpful and will be utilized at opportune times to better my marital relationship. Prayer is a resource and the ability to obtain a different perspective when speaking to you is very helpful. I must choose my words carefully when expressing myself, even in disappointments. Truly study the actions of love as per 1 Cor. 13 and strive to act accordingly.
Searching scriptures for homework, talking over the homework assignments, and listening to the prayers lifted after each session were most helpful. Homework challenged me to look within myself and to describe aspects of both me and my husband that hadn’t been thought of during my normal day to day. Being able to gather an understanding of the feedback you give is important. Also having you understand my point of view or take on certain things is helpful as well. Regarding my marriage, I do trust that me plus GOD is the majority and whatever HE says is what I trust. The covenant is three-fold. There are times when marriages are saved by the willingness of a faithful spouse who stands on what our Father instructs during their time of separation and discovery. I do know that GOD is able to perform restoration despite the enemy’s attempts to destroy what is. No matter what, I will trust GOD and go through the process. Thank you so much for your time and help. You are appreciated as an asset to my journey of being made over into the likeness of the ONE true Creator. HE is doing a work in and on me. I wish to see it through.
Dealt with my past (IET)
I used to wonder if my parents were still with me now life would not have been like that. I used to feel sorry for myself who lost them and think that other people have better life than me. What I had through first session I have dealt with my past and aware that everything that already happened in the past stay there. What I can do is being productive in my present life. Through one to the other time, personally help me to not thinking about other people but myself. How I must reach my goals. I have been better managing my time and goals. I have a daily schedule like I used to have when I was in college, and it helps me a lot to being productive.
Personally, I have never had bad experience in my married life beside sometimes we just have different interest and then we figured that we could have different goals. The other time I wondered if my husband supports me this or that because I never discuss my interests and goal with him. Mrs. Ancy has encouraged me to discuss my goals with my husband and ask his consideration and then I know the answer. Before that I only imagine if I could read his mind and guessing that he probably won’t support me. It turned out that he is okay with the exception that I must remember my main role as a wife, career is the next priority after family. I know his answer because his mother is a stayed-home mother and is fully with kids, I assume he thinks like that because he has my mother-in-law as role model. I respect his thoughts. I’m grateful I have time with my husband to pray and learn the bible together every day. We are getting better on discussing the word of God.
The last sessions have helped me to figure out my spiritual gifts. I used to confuse which area of ministry I must focus while in fact I don’t need to think about that. I just need to simply act and being a part with the church ministry. Ministry itself is not only limited in church it could be outside the church. I’m so thankful that I have been better on engaging relations with my family and friends. I have time to pray with my friends and my family, especially my brother and sister and we are getting better every time we communicate. Mrs. Ancy had been encouraged me that I can do what I am called with the help of God. There’s no such a thing as limitation.
Taught me boundaries (MP)
Time spent with you helped me to understand my multiple issues by bringing clarity and focus to what was really causing my unhappiness. I liked how you explained to me that all I can change is my outlook and myself. I cannot change others. It also helped me to be reminded of the power of prayer. I can see God already working in my life and my families. I was really rejuvenated my faith and gave me courage and hope and it reminded me to trust in the Lord always. He is always there for me. You also helped me realize that no one is perfect, but everyone is unique. I feel your talk really woke up my heart and I’m so thankful for you, your time, and God working through you to help me and others. Thank you!
I gained much understanding of myself. I realized I have a lot of hurt from my past that I need to let go of. It truly helped me how to do that through God and Jesus. It’s the only way. He is our protector and healer. It made me see who God called me to be and really helped put my negative thoughts about myself at ease. I was able to give myself mercy and love which allows me to do that to others. You only get this through Christ who dwells in us. Thanks be to God! It also allowed me to accept my family and not need the things that I kept wanting from them. I’ve learned that God is the only One who can provide and meet all our needs and knowing that has helped me to have healthier boundaries with my family and my spouse. On issues that arise, prayer is key. Also removing myself from a situation that is toxic helps. Always listening to the Holy Spirit and praying for It to flood my house and flood all my family members.
What was most helpful to me was being fully honest with you. Also, by having you explain to me that I can only change my thinking not anyone else’s. Taught me boundaries in my relationships that were much needed. Also, you always brought my focus back on the real issues when I would start bringing up others, the healing session is to help me and work on me. Thank you. Just a big thank you for your time and your prayers! I pray for you and give thanks to God for you.
God so graciously brought us together (CLA)
I met Ancy at a small worship meeting. Ancy and Joe both spoke at this meeting. When the meeting was over, I reached out & gave her my information in case we were to ever meet up. I do this frequently so I never know who will respond and who will not. To my surprise, Ancy reached out right away, and we ended up meeting for dinner with our husbands. As I often do, I overshared as much of my story as I could get in, especially after Ancy shared she is a psychological counselor from India.
One of the most amazing things about this was that I had been in prayer for people to come along side me and help me with those I am helping. There are so many people who are struggling, and relationships are often strained. God so graciously brought us together. Ancy offered her time to me freely to find out my needs and pray with me. I have my own challenges going on, but I am also surrounded by the needs of other hurting believers. Ancy helped me through many challenges and allowed me to bring others with me when we would meet.
I not only received help but was able to witness the way she helps others through their struggles. No matter what the conversation is, she’s always smiling and full of hope. You cannot help but feel better after walking away from a meeting with her. She walks you through your thoughts and feelings while bringing God’s truth to the situation so you can see more clearly. She listens intently but is not afraid to speak much needed truth to challenge your perspective and redirect you to the Father God.
She is a powerful force to help you defeat the enemy when you work with her and allow her to speak into your situation and follow her counsel, being consistent and honest about where you are in your journey. After all, you cannot get where you desire to go unless you know and acknowledge where you really are!
Thank you Ancy for your dedication to walking in God’s Power through your sharing your gifts and offering your time and counsel. Thank you for your prayers and your love for the Body of Christ. Thank you for your boldness and your example of obedience in situations that are full of uncertainty. God Bless you and Joe as He provides all you need and way more for the spreading of the Good News and the building up of His Church.
Now I am confident enough (TT)
I was born as a twin kid with a loving twin brother to my loving and blessed parents. Life has been smooth throughout as I have been with my twin brother till I completed my matriculation. He was more of an extrovert, well networked among friends and I used to latch onto him for all my overall activities. I was more hardworking in nature when it comes to studies & he was always at ease but used to score at par. I was always happy about it & comfortable being with him, sharing with him & getting inspired by him.
My parents used to leave it our way& never tried to push me or compare between ourselves. My mental trauma erupted when my brother left us &stayed apart for pursuing grade 12 coupled with entrance coaching. I stayed at home since I wanted to be with my parents, but his vacuum had put me in a different mental frame. But I managed 2 years only getting consoled that during once in 2 weeks he used to be around for a day or two. He got adapted easily but I was going through a missing pain which I never voiced out.
We both passed 12th grade & he managed to get higher marks & a seat for engineering through entrance. My favorite subject was biology and hence wrote medical entrance but didn’t do well. Now looking back, I realized that was the turning point in my life when my father took lot of interests in pooling huge money to get me an admission in medical college just to keep me happy & at par with my brother. I never denied it but was not confident whether I will be able to do justice to self &parents going out of my home, comforts & still didn’t voice out.
I got admitted in a college which was far away but had lot of relatives at that place but nothing could console me other than my parents, my home & brother. Studies started. Being in hostel for the first time, new friends, new environment& tough course curriculum I was thoroughly confused. I knew I was changing not able to cope up troubling my parents on a daily basis to give up while getting depressed equally understanding the fact that my parents had put in their entire investments on my studies. One year I struggled with myself, I had to take medicines for depression & everything aggravated with first time failures in initial set of internal exams.
Everything came to a standstill when I gave up totally & my father had to take that bold call of getting me back home sacrificing the entire money they had invested and my ambitious career. I shrunk to myself &even felt like killing myself to get saved from this trauma I was going through but could not when I realized how much my parents loved me. That is the first time when I saw them in tears because of my approach. I was not in a mood to pursue anything in life & that is when one of my close friends came into my life as an angel informing me about Mrs. Ancy Joe and her husband.
I still remember the first day I met them when I was not at all convinced with what they told me. But the trust they showered on me regarding prayer& God’s presence moved me. Then it was days of blessings. Consistent counselling & prayer sessions enriched, enlightened & gave me confidence. It helped me in exploring & handholding me with guiding light of God’s grace. Even though I lost one year, I applied for graduation & was very particular that will only avail a merit admission.
Now I am so happy & proud that I recovered, did that course for 3 years & came out with flying colors & that too God blessed me with a 3rd rank at university level in Degree. Now I realize God has plans for everyone & He sets direction through His aids other than our own relatives & parents. Now I am confident enough in making it in life & my revival is a testimony to prayer guided approach.